I entitled this blog "my obvious personality" because I've never wrestled with what kind of personality I have. I am very extroverted, (I scored a 99% on the extroversion part of this test) and I am all about feeling. Thinking is important, but a lot of the time, my feelings take precedent. I care a lot about others, and am empathetic. Recently when my roommate broke up with her long time boyfriend, I was alarmed how intensely I felt her pain when I saw her upset. Another aspect of my personality is that I tend to want to lead and take care of others. I guess these are the basic & obvious aspects of my personality that don't take much to figure out, but they are also key parts of being an ENFJ/ ESFJ.
The key things I see in ESFJ that reflect who I am are:
-ESFJs are easily wounded. And when wounded, their emotions will not be contained. They by nature "wear their hearts on their sleeves," often exuding warmth and bonhomie, but not infrequently boiling over with the vexation of their souls.
-All else being equal, ESFJs enjoy being in charge. They see problems clearly and delegate easily, work hard and play with zest.
-ESFJs are warm and energetic. They need approval from others to feel good about themselves. They are hurt by indifference and don't understand unkindness. They are very giving people, who get a lot of their personal satisfaction from the happiness of others- I could go on, but there's not enough time, to read the full account go here:
http://typelogic.com/enfj.html or http://www.personalitypage.com/ENFJ.html
I found less of myself in ENFJs:
-The first account I read for ENFJs called them "Givers" rather than caregivers
-ENFJ's main interest in life is giving love, support, and a good time to other people. They are focused on understanding, supporting, and encouraging others. They make things happen for people, and get their best personal satisfaction from this.